A Valentine's week reflection: Ladies, when your man gets that pensive look on his face and, assuming he's pondering your relationship, you ask, "Hon, what are you thinking about?," and he says "nothin'," don't be hurt. Men can go days without a cogent thought about the relationship. That doesn't mean he doesn't love you. Besides, he's probably just thinking about his fantasy football team. Or sex. Or dinner. Maybe it's best to just not ask.